You’re probably the only one outside of immediate family members that care what size you are. I don’t. I care what size I am. Your size affects you and your opinion of yourself much more than it does others.

There are no winners when we dress to compete. We either lose the competition and feel bad about ourselves or win and cause someone else to feel bad about themselves. It’s wonderful to maintain a good image but not one so good that you can hide behind it.

Clothes are an accessory to the real you. And the real you is a beautiful starting point for getting dressed.

Don’t say things to yourself you wouldn’t say to your best friend. Don’t call yourself names or put yourself down. It’s a tragedy when you start believing yourself.

There’s no law against wearing the same item of clothing twice in one week. Men do it all the time. A neutral color skirt or pant can be worn several times in a week simply by changing tops and accessories. (Don’t forget regular laundering.)

Take care of yourself emotionally. A lot of important people depend on you — starting with you. Think good thoughts about who you are, how you look and what you deserve. Take time to take a long bubble bath now and then. Browse an antique shop even when you don’t have time. Old things are peaceful. Use expensive body lotion you can’t afford — stop being practical for once.

Try to learn how to accept your face and body as it is now. Don’t put off looking your best until you lose weight or cut your hair or buy some new clothes. Forgive yourself for those extra pounds, be grateful for good health and take a small step towards an appearance goal you can achieve.

Believe people when they compliment you and use this to learn what looks best on you.

Don’t deny yourself the pleasure of color or style due to your age or size. (Use commonsense.) One of the most beautiful women I ever knew was a size 28.

A smile and positive attitude is still the most affordable and most flattering thing we will ever wear.